On a daily basis women experience other women trying to pursue their husbands. Some husbands fall into an affair and some do not. My question is why do women who know that a man is married choose to pursue. If an affair occurs (their are multiple types of affairs e.g emotional , sexual etc....)This may lead to lifelong trauma and stress for the wife and husband. Psychology today lists these as possible permanent effects: Repeated intrusive thoughts. Unstable emotional regulation. Out of body experiences. Alternating between feeling numb and striking out in retaliation. Inability to stop scanning for any new data that might cause more distress. Feeling overwhelmingly powerlessness and broken. Needing to regain self-worth by assigning blame. Confusion and disorientation. Why do women do this? Please share your thoughts and personal experiences.