We all have played victim before, but playing the will only make someone feel worse in the long run. Here are 14 signs to identify someone with this behavior.
1. They don't take responsibility: Victims has trouble understanding they contributed to a problem, instead they point finger or ignore their role in perpetuating the problem.
2. They are frozen in their life: Victims believe that they are at the mercy of everyone and everything around them. Usually they will not make progress or advance in their life because they perceive that they are powerless. As a result, their life is stagnant.
3. They hold to grudges: Victims like to hang onto old grievances. They carry these around like weapons, just in case anyone ever tries to hold them accountable for something. They will bring up old memories in which they were legitimately hurt, but they use them as reasons why they can't make changes to their attitude or their life, or their circumstances in the present.
4. They have trouble being assertive: Victims don't truly believe they can control their life, so they struggle to state what they need, desire or deserve. Their life involves repeating patterns of submissiveness and passivity. This pattern is detrimental to self-esteem and personal development. The victim fails to break this pattern and suffers from potential anxiety or depressive disorders.
5. They feel powerless: This could be a shadow behavior, meaning that the victim does not outwardly show that they feel powerless, Instead, the victim will try to be manipulative, coercive, and underhanded in getting what they need.
6. They don't trust others: This is a problem of the victim not believing themselves. The victim makes the assumption that other people are exactly like them.
7. They don't know when to say enough is enough: In relationship they have no sense of limits.
8. They get into arguments easily: Victims have trouble choosing their battles. They think every battle is a war and that they are under attack all the time.
9.They feel sorry for themselves: Victims have a habit of pitying themselves. They mirror a defenseless child that cannot fend for itself. This further traps them in the victim role.
10. They constantly compare themselves to others: Victims usually struggle wit the habit of comparing themselves to others negatively.
11. They see life as always lacking: Even when something good happens, victims will seek out what is lacking or what is missing.
12. They are a critic: Victims have a need to put others down and find fault in people. By doing these things they feel superior.
13. They think they are perfect: When there is a chance that a victim could be caught in an error, they suddenly become perfect.
14: They cut people out of their life: " they are out of my life for good" If you ever heard that statement before not referring to an abusive relationship, then you are probably dealing with a victim.